Reasons to Break Up

There are always reasons to break up, but some more common than others. If any of these things happen, it is time to move on and find another love.

1. An abusive relationship.
2. No trust.
3. Found someone else.
4. Loss of interest.
5. No future together. "

I've been with my bf for 5 years now. It hasnt been all that easy, but this year it was hell and I made the wrong decision i think.

Early this year my bf confronted me, saying that he wasnt happy in our relationship any more, he wanted to be free. I didnt see it coming and i was schocked. We talked and argued about it for a month resulting in my bf staying with me. He said he was wrong and wanted to stay with me and he seemed/ still seems happy with that decision.

My problem is that i regret asking him to stay when he wanted to break up. My problem is that we havent been sleeping with each other for a few months at a time, and this makes me really insecure and not wanted, and he thinks its not that important. Well, it is for me, I want a relationship with someone who cares about me physically too. Although we live together, there's a huge distance between us. I'm not even sure i love him any more...

Am i being silly? We connect very well otherwise, it's easy to live with him. Should i break up? Everyday i'm more convinced i should... I'm also worried why we dont connect physically any more, it is really emotionally tiring!!

A. That sounds like a crappy situation. Honestly, if you are even questioning your feelings for him, you are losing some feeling for him. Maybe it WOULD be a good thing to end it. You may be able to save a friendship and/or the relationship by ending it now. You need the break before it turns into a huge fight and you two never speak again. Good luck!

The three reasons to break up with your boyfriend include: the two of you having different goals for the future, physical or emotional abuse, and a lack of trust.

Four reasons to break up with your girlfriend include the following: you are leading her on, you don't trust her, your relationship has made your life worse, or you are only with her out of guilt."

From http://rogerebert.suntimes.com/apps/pbcs.dll
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The Break-Up" hints that the broken-up couple will get back together again, but that doesn't make us eager for a sequel. The movie stars Vince Vaughn and Jennifer Aniston as Gary and Brooke, a steady couple who have many reasons to break up but none to get together, except that they fall in love. Since the scenes where they're together are so much less convincing than the ones where they fall apart, watching the movie is like being on a double-date from hell."

"Q. What makes your girlfriend to break up with you even though you havent done anything wrong to her?

A. here is truth to the saying, "It's not you, it's me." Really you don't have to do anything wrong for someone to break up with you. Feelings change all the time. It could be many different things...she finds someone else attractive, she's tired of being in a relationship, she's having a serious mood swing, who ever really knows. All I can say is, don't think to hard about it...what happens, happens. You dwelling over it won't change anything at all.

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2. STUPID EGOTISM
asking not what you can do for the relationship but only what the relationship can do for you

5. STUPID PRIORITIES
consuming all your time and energies with work, hobbies, errands and chores instead of focusing on your relationship

6. STUPID HAPPINESS
seeking stimulation and assurance from all the wrong places to satisfy the immature need to feel good

8. STUPID LIAISONS
not letting go of negative attachments to friends and relatives who are damaging to your relationship

Emily (Heather Graham) comes up with endless reasons to break up. Emily (Heather Graham) comes up with endless reasons to break up.

Not that anyone should really need to be taught the reasons why this might not be the best time to launch yet another painfully precious, heavily narrated Sex and the City salute to the dating trials of the young and the beautiful. The explanations for viewer exhaustion with the genre should be obvious even to a TV novice like Heather Graham.

Graham does exude an almost irresistible all-American-girl adorability, so much so that you're willing to forgive her lapses in sitcom skill.

Even at her worst, when she's contorting her face to match the coy, thought-revealing voice-over, you tend to root for her. Unfortunately for ABC, by the end of Emily's Reasons Why Not, you're rooting for her to find a better vehicle.

The sitcom casts Graham as Emily Sanders, a successful publishing executive who has spent her life cataloguing the reasons against taking various courses of action. When her affair with a cheating self-help author goes south, she decides to apply a new countdown rule to romance: If she can come up with five reasons why a relationship won't work, she dumps the guy."

2. You feel that the relationship is smothering you emotionally, socially, or spiritually. (Remember the Cling-ons from the last chapter?)

3. You sense there are differences in values, beliefs, and life goals. (Reread chapter 7 if you feel you're in an unstable relationship.)

4. One of you is moving a distance away. Looking back, both Sandy and I would have missed rich opportunities to get to know other people if we had tried to keep up a 150-mile relationship for several years. As soon as I left, she started to date one of my good friends. It took me longer to start dating seriously again, but I then met my wife-to-be.

5. You find yourself outgrowing the person. I really believed we were right for each other during the time Sandy and I were together, but we were growing in different directions.

6. You're in an emotionally, physically, or sexually abusive relationship. Don't make excuses for your partner—just get out!"

"Saying goodbye to self-indulgence with 'Seinfeld', By Jill Brooke, CNN Showbiz Correspondent

Seinfeld "'Seinfeld' revealed men's military secrets. They really will break up over whether you eat peas one at a time," explained Mark Simone, a stand-up comedy writer and television historian.

Before "Seinfeld," we were taught to believe bad morals or bad manners could cause a break-up.

But we learned that having bad taste in commercials, laughing strangely, having big hands, not kissing on the third date and, worst of all, being liked by your parents, were all acceptable dumping grounds.

Deep down, the show's characters never wanted to settle down. They weren't after a mate to bicker with or kids to give them one crisis after another. They weren't looking to work in an office where their boss gave them ulcers.

They wanted to remain young, carefree, fun-loving single people. The cast looked and acted as though they were fresh out of college.

For Jerry, cereal was fine cuisine and Superman cartoons were great art. You rarely saw George in a tie and jacket. Kramer looked like he got his wardrobe from vintage clothing stores. And Elaine's hair was often anything but coifed.

The characters, like so many baby boomers, were determined not to live their parents' lives and settle down at 25."

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steve :

Posted 81 days ago

My girlfriend is from Connecticut and in grad school in North Carolina in the town that I was born and raised. We met through some mutual friends. She will have a better job than me when she graduates and she wants us to move back to Connecticut but I dont want to leave my hometown along with my family and friends. I dont mean to sound like a rich ... but I will be inheriting a lot of land and money because my family is wealthy. I would be crazy to move away from all of it. Plus, I'd like to think I will take over the family business and make my own money one day.
My girlfriend could get a job in just about any town in America, but I understand her wanting to be with her family in her hometown. She wont be graduating for another 6 months. Should I consider following her to Connecticut? Should I try to persuade her into staying here? Or, should we just not waste anymore time and split things off now? I know there is no exact formula to follow here on what to do, but I kinda wish someone could tell me what to do...

Lindsey :

Posted 181 days ago

The Top Reasons To Break Up With A Man... or reasons to put an end to seeing a man who isn't your boyfriend.
He doesn't answer your calls
He puts you down by making fun of you
He thinks he is better than you
He talks to females behind your back
You can't ever ask him a serous question because you can't tell if he is lieing to you
He lies about little things
He hangs out with females that he has once dated, or even just kissed before
When he makes everything more importnant than spending time with you
It feels like sex is all he wants
He ignors you
He tells his friends your secrets
He involes others into your relationship.. His sister, mom..etc
He won't have a serours conversation with you
He doesn't take you literally
When he's away he doesn't bother to call
He spends more time with friends than you
He thinks he's more attractive than you are
He calls you fat
He makes jokes that hurt your feelings
He makes you cry a lot
He doesn't care about things that are important to you
Your only with him because you feel that you can't find anyone better
He always judges you
You can't be yourself around him
He's ditched you
He always acts like he wants to break up
It seems like he's lieing
He only loves himself
He's selfish

anna :

Posted 499 days ago

I want to break-up because lost of interest,he did not respect me.He always hurt me.

Confused :

Posted 816 days ago

How should I go about a break up wit my girlfriend, shes deeply in love with me still but I'm not with her, and I want to find people around here, she lives in another state...What should I do and how should I do it?

reagan :

Posted 882 days ago

okay so i have been with my borfriend for about 6 months.
and just recently i found out that one of his exes and a popular blonde at our school like him, he tells me i have nothing to worry about but the thing he doesnt know is that his girl best friend who is also mine tells me everything. just today i left school early because i was sick and when i got home and i started texting her and she told me that once i left lunch he went and sat between his ex and the blonde. im getting really worried his ex and her best friend(the ruiner) (who both hate me. why?; i have no clue.) but they will stop at nothing to break us up, and its getting really hard. im not sure if i should break up with him or stay and push through it...
helppppp?

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