How To Break Up With Your Girlfriend

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From http://library.thinkquest.org/C004916/dumping-tutorial/dumping-breakingup.shtml

.... I strongly suggest that when breaking up, you invite her out for lunch or dinner at the very same place you first met or had a date together...

.... When telling her the awful truth, you should have a solemn face and say the words like you mean them."

From: http://www.adviceweekly.com/2005/01/how-to-break-up-with-your-girlfriend.html

"We hate to admit it, but relationships are about communication. When your girlfriend screams and threatens you, she is trying to communicate. What she’s saying is that she’s afraid, afraid of many things, but especially afraid of losing you."

Unhappy with your current relationship? Here are some ideas for ending it on good terms.

1. However kind you may be, there is no way around the fact that this is going to hurt the other person. All you can do is try to minimize the pain.

2. Do not break up with the person by phone, or e-mail; this is disrespectful. Have the decency to do it privately and in person.

3. Try to avoid placing blame on the other person for the break up. Be as minimalist as possible in your explanation, especially if the reason for the break up is some fault you find with your partner. Don't be afraid to tell a little white lie to spare their feelings. It's much better to say something like "I need some space to grow as a person" than to say "You really annoy me".

4. Afterwards, tell the person that you hope to stay in touch and that you still care about them. "

So you started a relationship with a cute, sweet girl who turned out to be an emotional wreck and possibly mentally insane. No problem, the hardest part is breaking up...err, actually it might be staying broke up, but first things first. Realize that any relationship you are in should improve both people's lives, and in this case focus on how your life currently is compared to how you would like it to be. If your life is not going the way you want it to, then follow these seven steps to break up with your girlfriend:

1. Take a break from each other - Tell your girlfriend you're taking some time alone (and give her a definite day when you will be done). Keep it to about a week or two at the most, since at this point in the relationship things are probably rocky and you don't want to draw out the pain too long. It is crucial that you not see her or speak to her at all (or as little as possible). The reason you want to be completely away from her is so that your mind and body can clear the emotions which are clouding your reasoning and judgment. She will probably fight with you about this saying that 'she really needs you right now', or try to put some other guilt trip on you, but you must be firm and stand your ground.

2. Make a decision - Once your head is cleared and you've taken a step back from your situation, figure out what is best for you. Decide who and what you believe and be brutally honest with what kind of person your girlfriend really is. Does she lie? Have you suspected her of cheating? Can you trust her? Are you counting on her to change even though she has given you signs that she doesn't want to? Do you see a future with this woman and even the possibility that she could be the mother of your kids? Are you counting on the future to be different than what it is now (even though it will most likely be more of the same). Do you have ulterior motives for keeping this relationship alive (such as satisfying your family or friends, you don't think you will be able to find anyone else, etc)? Ask yourself, how would a real man act in this situation? Don't stay in a relationship just because you have 'history', it may be bad history and you want to end that as soon as possible.

3. Make a plan - If you've decided to end it, then you must figure out the implications when you break the news. Does she have possession of anything of yours that is valuable such as expensive electronics, memorabilia etc? Are the both of you in any joint contracts or ownership agreements such as real estate loans, car payments, credit cards, etc? Figure out a way that you can get out of any agreements and get your stuff back safely in case she flips out and goes on a rampage (such as having a mutual friend get your stuff while she is gone, etc).

4. Tell her your decision - Communicate to her in person exactly how you feel and what you've decided. Remember, the decision is over so do not ask, beg, or plead but tell her in a mature manner that is not spiteful, immature, or childish. Be prepared for threats against you or herself. Do not cave under the pressure; she will probably try to get you to reconsider any way possible. Expect tears. If she is seriously suicidal (and not just trying to manipulate you), then you should arrange for her friends to be nearby when you break the news and possibly some medical help as well.

5. Hold your ground - Forever. Do not doubt yourself or be swayed, the decision is final. Realize that people can change, but the chances are very small and any changes she may make in the future are most likely just surface changes not personal transformation.

6. Avoid her completely - Do not email, speak, or see her until you are comfortable with the idea of her having sex with someone else, then you can talk to her again (but with extreme caution and very limited). Remember, after you break up, it is crucial for your emotional connections to be severed completely so you can be truly free from her (this can take months or sometimes even years).

7. Be a man about it - If you decide to be ‘friends’ with her, be cordial and mature about it. Don't bring up old issues but treat her as a new guy friend. Don't be needy or go out of your way to help her, and especially don’t fall into mind games. If she tries to make you jealous, hit on you, or bring up old issues, stop her immediately and remind her you are only friends and if she keeps it up you are outta there!

Please leave your comments or suggestions on how to break up with your girlfriend:

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claude :

Posted 65 days ago

what if the lady has been helpfull in terms of giving you money when in need and u realise you are not compatible, there is no future together, what do you do?my email is uwineje_2020@yahoo ...

ret :

Posted 93 days ago

what if the lady has been helpfull in terms of giving you money when in need and u realise you are not compatible, there is no future together, what do you do?my email is kingyobo@ymail ...

lyn :

Posted 93 days ago

what if the lady has been helpfull in terms of giving you money when in need and u realise you are not compatible, there is no future together, what do you do?

blondeman :

Posted 114 days ago

I have been with this girl for almost a year and it started out great! then she started opening up more ( ... ing bout everything)...shes mentaly and emotionaly abusive. Ive taken it for a few months now and I think its time to pull the plug. i take that back I know its time to pull the plug. but this girl is insane and I fear that shes going to be a stalker or worse suicidal. what am I spose to do?

Pascal :

Posted 119 days ago

I just broke up with my girlfriend and got a waitress's phone number. Thanks breakup survivior

snowden :

Posted 123 days ago

I'm not sure if i cam do it because we have bee together for six months and 3 days after the 6 month anniversary she gets drunk with my sister at a party and calls me and then gets mad that I'm mad keep in mind we are both 16 I just don't know what to do please help me I really love her a lot

don :

Posted 130 days ago

hey i could use some help breaking up with my girlfriend of 1 and a half years. i have no really good reson to do so and i dont want to hurt her feelings can anyone help my email is donald1hermanson@hotmail ...

Chavo :

Posted 222 days ago

how should i tell my girlfriend of 2 years that im actually a homosexual?

luv :

Posted 428 days ago

just tell her that u care about her and that you will always be there for her to talk and console but the relationship just wont work.

chris :

Posted 459 days ago

hey i just started dating this girl about 3 weeks ago.I am currently a sophmore in high school. I really like her and she likes me. "i know this for a fact" and I have feelings for her but i dont feel the same and i dont know what to do. if someone could give me some advice that would be awsome. my email is christianjhonwestberry@yahoo ... thanks guys i feel stupid asking for help but i know i should ask before i do anything.

chris :

Posted 459 days ago

Tim :

Posted 460 days ago

I have been dating this girl for slightly more than two years now. I am a senior in high school. Both of our plans for a future separate us by almost 500 miles. I have not felt nearly as strong for her now as I once did before and feel like it's time to let go. Still, she is too attached to me and I don't think she will be able to let go easily from me. Regardless, this will hurt and will be hard. What do you think would be the best way to get through it?

mike :

Posted 477 days ago

solid advice. ive been dating this girl for 4 months,shes done nothing really wrong, its just that now theres someone better after me and ive had this feeling for a while. i just figured that nows the time ....im ... ed up arent i??
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Ryan Randolph is the author the blog "Dewussified: The Path to Masculine Power" where he dives into psychology, genetics, social conditioning, sprituality, belief systems and other aspects of male-female interactions. The blog is found at www.dewussified.com

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