| How to Break
Up With Someone!
Learn how to break up with someone the
right way! Breaking up is never easy, but it is especially hard on the dumpee.
One of the best ways to break up with
someone is to be honest, gentle, and get right to the point. I strongly suggest
not 'setting them up' for other expectations by planning a fancy dinner for
two, or any other activity which would bring their hopes up for a romantic
time only to be shattered like florescent lighting in the end.
From
http://www.egodriven.net/breakup/default.htm
"How to Break Up With
Someone
Seeing as how I have already taught
you all to use poetry to Tell Someone You Love Them, I thought I'd take this
a step farther. Have you ever been in a relationship with someone that just
wasn't working? Maybe they have cheated on you. Maybe you've cheated on them.
Maybe you've just grown to despise them. There has never really been an easy
way to end a relationship... until now.
Do you not have the heart, or the
balls, to break it off with this person face to face? Now that's not a problem!
You can just send them one of these delightful poems through the wonders
of your national postal service! Have fun!"
From
http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/howto/breakup.asp
"How Tos @
RomanceClass:
How to Break Up with
Someone
Breaking up is rarely easy. You both
had feelings for each other at one point, and maybe you still do. The key
is to do it maturely, without deliberate pain, so that you can both move
on with your lives and find someone better suited for you. A relationship
really needs two fully committed people, so if one of you doesn't want to
be in the relationship any more, it's best for BOTH of you to end it. That's
the key message to get across.
Don't get into lots of blame-finding.
There is always fault on both sides in a relationship that fails. Make sure
you sit down face to face somewhere quiet. Never break up over the phone
or via email, that's completely unfair. A relationship is based on trust
and dependability - don't prove you're unworthy of that in the final hour.
Sit down and explain it's not going to work. If your partner has questions,
answer them as fairly as you can, but without going into lots of back-stabbing.
Breaking up isn't about finding fault. It's about you both being able to
find "closure" to this relationship so you are able to then move on to a
new one."
From http://www.wikihow.com/
Break-up-With-Someone-Using-Style-and-Sensitivity
"How to Break up With Someone Using
Style and Sensitivity
We all know breaking up is hard to
do. But unless you're Ross and Rachel, or some teen romance turned
happily-ever-after, breakups are an unavoidable part of our lives. And while
it's up to you to decide what your individual breakup style is, if you want
to avoid future bad relationship karma, you'll adopt a few breakup basics.
Steps:
1. Pick an appropriate place.
2. Choose the right time.
3. Do it in person.
4.Be honest but sensitive.
5. Keep your emotions in check.
6. Don't react."
From
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/44838/
how_to_break_up_with_someone_without.html
"Dating & Relationships »
How to Break Up with Someone Without Hurting Their
Feelings
What could you possibly be thinking?
Of course you can't break up with someone without hurting their feelings.
But at the very least, you can soften the blow and let them down gently,
while cushioning some of the impact with some positive emotions that will
hopefully leave the intended victim's ego intact, and yourself satisfied
with your capacity for empathy. Of course, you may feel that not everyone
is worth the effort, but if you find that you truly do care about an individual's
feelings, despite the fact that you no longer wish to date them, then a few
simple tips may help ease the painful process.
....
When you break up with someone, that
person is undoubtedly going to feel rejected.
Appearing face to face is difficult
for both parties once the talk has begun.
A clean break is often best for both
parties involved."
From
http://teenadvice.about.com/cs/breakingup/ht/breakingupht.htm
"How To Break Up With
Someone
You are in a relationship with someone
that you are no longer romantically interested in. It's time to be
honest.
Here's How:
1. Get alone with him/her.
2. Relax.
3. Tell him/her that you feel this
relationship on its current level needs to end.
4. Give him/her some time to let
it sink in.
5. If s/he tries to convince you
to give him/her another chance, listen to him/her.
6. Tell him/her that you've made
up your mind.
7. Tell him/her at what level you
would like to keep your relationship (acquaintences, never-seens, friends,
etc).
8. Listen to his/her response. Respect
his/her feelings about this new level
9. Let him/her go when s/he feels
s/he needs to end the conversation."
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From
http://www.bbc.co.uk/dna/h2g2/A801622
"How to break up with
someone
Do
* Talk face-to-face if given the
choice.
* Tell them that this in no way alters the feelings you had for them at one
time, but that was then and this is now.
* Return all personal effects that your soon-to-be-ex partner may have left
around at your place (this also helps the healing process in the post-breakup
period).
* Keep your really, really nasty feelings for yourself.
* Offer your friendship, if possible.
Don't
* Do a disappearing act: it is not
nice to leave people hanging on the phone and/or e-mail.
* E-mail your decision (see above).
* Act out of revenge: even if your partner has been very nasty to you (especially
if they have been very nasty) there is only a very narrow chance that any
revenge will teach them a lesson.
* Keep anything that they may want to have returned to them for over a week.
* Try to blame them for your decision, especially if it's none of their fault
(ie, you simply do not wish to keep seeing them in a sexual and/or romantic
way).
* Demand that you be friends, that the switch to friendship status take place
immediately and thus proceed to tell them all about your new partner and
the really kinky things they can do with mayonnaise."
From
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=1006053119215
"How to break up with someone you
truly care about because of a fundamental value that you have that they
dont?
Q. I need advice as to how to break
up with a guy that I care about and really have enjoyed dating. I recently
found out that my partner, Austin, does not believe that God exists and I
believe that there is a God and God is the most important person in my life.
I am saddened by knowing I must break up with Austin, but I know that I must
if I am to follow my beliefs. I do not want to hurt him and wish that I could
cause him to believe there is a God, but I know that you cannot force someone
to believe something that they feel so strongly against. I really like this
guy, but I am hopeful that there will be some guy out there for me who will
share my core fundamental belief that there is a God. I am not willing to
compromise this belief for the sake of dating Austin because he is getting
pretty serious about me.
A. This happened to me. I dated a
guy for a long time, and inevitablely we had the God talk. When I found out
he didn't believe in God it through me back alot. I sat down and did a lot
of thinking. I decided I couldn't have a future with a man who didn't believe
in God. I wanted to go to church as a family and celebrate holidays as a
family.
I sat him down and told him I cared
about him alot (I even loved him) but said I couldn't be with him because
he didn't believe in God. He offered to go to church with me, but I knew
that deep down he still wouldn't believe in God. I was honest and told him
that I couldn't be with him since we didn't share core
believes.
It was hard, and I cried alot. But
in the end it turned out for the best. I am now dating someone who believes
in God."
From
http://blog.360.yahoo.com/blog-1zNGip
Yieqs9kJMnmeQTgy99?p=377
"How to Break-Up with
Someone.
Be honest with yourself: One
of the first steps in this process is acknowledging that the relationship
is really over.
Establish a plan: Don’t
prolong the agony. Once you’ve decided to break up; immediately think
about how, when and where you will take action.
Be honest with the person you break
up with: After evaluating your reasons, then talk about it with your
soon to be ex.
Be strong: More often than
not, breakups get emotional. Remain calm.
After the break up: If your
ex won’t leave you alone after you have severed the relationship with
them there are things you can do to drive the point home. Severing all contact
with them is the preferred method. Don’t take any calls, letters, visits
or any type of correspondence from them (not even
once!)."
From http://www.positive-way.com/
ending_a_relationship__how_to_br.htm
" Ending a Relationship - How to break
up with someone.
There are no easy ways to end a
relationship. It always hurts one if not both people involved. Many times
it hurts the person being rejected so deeply that it can take months and
sometimes years to mend the broken heart. Listed below are some suggestions
on how to break off a relationship that may ease the pain
overall.
1. Do it in person if at all possible.
2. Use the "oreo" approach. Start
out with a sincere compliment and then state the fact that you want to end
the relationship and explain why without shaming or blaming the other person.
3. Keep this meeting short and to
the point.
4. Don't leave the person thinking
there is a chance of getting back together.
5. Understand you cannot control how
the other person will react."
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