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Ever wonder how to break up with a guy? Here's some practical advice!

Breaking someone's heart is never easy, but staying in a relationship that isn't working for you (or for your partner) can be far more devastating in the long run.

When the relationship just isn't working out, how's the best way to break it to your guy that you want out? Below we have found some advice and suggestions from around the web on how to do this. As usual, please leave your comments, advice, and suggestion on how to break up with a guy at the end of the page.

From http://www.poemofquotes.com/

"How to Break up With a Man

Men are generally harder to break up with than females. For that reason, here are some guidelines you should follow when breaking up with a man.

* Keep it simple.
* Keep it short.
* Leave no "maybes."
* Tell him in person.
* Stay calm.

Breaking up with guy is as hard as you want it to be. The quicker you get it over with the better, there is no use in waiting unless there is a 50% chance of changing your mind. Just keep the break up easy to understand and speak calmly and everything will be fine..."

From http://msn.match.com/msn/

"How to break up with a guy

Let’s face it, there are no easy ways to end a relationship. But if you understand what really makes men tick, there are ways to make it a little less horrible. Here are some insider tips from the mouths of the broken-hearted — and some love gurus — on how to let a guy down easy. Use them next time you need a send a fella packin’.

*Be definitive
*Don’t let him be the last to know
*Don’t use a keyboard
*Steer clear of fake excuses
*Be brief
*Avoid the drama
*Secure a break-up buddy"

From http://answers.yahoo.com/question

"Q. How to break up with someone you truly care about because of a fundamental value that you have that they dont?

I need advice as to how to break up with a guy that I care about and really have enjoyed dating. I recently found out that my partner, Austin, does not believe that God exists and I believe that there is a God and God is the most important person in my life. I am saddened by knowing I must break up with Austin, but I know that I must if I am to follow my beliefs. I do not want to hurt him and wish that I could cause him to believe there is a God, but I know that you cannot force someone to believe something that they feel so strongly against. I really like this guy, but I am hopeful that there will be some guy out there for me who will share my core fundamental belief that there is a God. I am not willing to compromise this belief for the sake of dating Austin because he is getting pretty serious about me.

A. This happened to me. I dated a guy for a long time, and inevitablely we had the God talk. When I found out he didn't believe in God it through me back alot. I sat down and did a lot of thinking. I decided I couldn't have a future with a man who didn't believe in God. I wanted to go to church as a family and celebrate holidays as a family.

I sat him down and told him I cared about him alot (I even loved him) but said I couldn't be with him because he didn't believe in God. He offered to go to church with me, but I knew that deep down he still wouldn't believe in God. I was honest and told him that I couldn't be with him since we didn't share core believes.

It was hard, and I cried alot. But in the end it turned out for the best. I am now dating someone who believes in God.

A. Hmmm, isn't breaking up with him over it turning your back on someone that needs saving? I wouldn't break up with him, but I would ask him to go to church with me sometimes, show him god's love in my eyes, you can't make him believe, but you can show him the path to believing. You could very well been sent to him to guide him to his father."

From http://www.ehow.com/

Topics addressed: How to break up with a guy

"Has your boyfriend been unfaithful to you? Handle a cheating boyfriend by following these steps.

* STEP 1: Acknowledge and accept your feelings of anger, sadness and disappointment over the betrayal.
* STEP 2: Don't blame yourself for his actions.
* STEP 3: Try to set aside your emotions and look at the situation from an outsider's point of view.
* STEP 4: Evaluate whether his behavior has permanently destroyed your trust in him and in your relationship.
* STEP 5: Confront your boyfriend and tell him exactly how you feel about his actions.
* STEP 6: If you feel you need to know why he cheated on you to obtain closure for yourself, listen to his explanations about his behavior.
* STEP 7: Don't allow him to manipulate your feelings with sweet words of apology or promises never to cheat on you again.
* STEP 8: Ask yourself if you would be better off with him or without him.
* STEP 9: Find a constructive outlet for your emotions of disappointment and anger.
* STEP 10: Give yourself time to grieve over the betrayal."

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From http://love.ivillage.com/lnsproblems

"Breaking Up

What's the best way to break up with a guy?

Q. What's the best way to break it off with a guy without hurting him? (Telling him I'm a lesbian is not an option.)

A. Just be honest. There's no other way. Guys see through excuses, so it would hurt him even more if you made one up. In time, he'll get over you; we always do. You can help the situation by not communicating with him for awhile. It's easier for him to forget about you and move on if you're totally out of the picture.

A. 1) Be honest (unless you're breaking up with him because he sucked in bed, in which case you better lie.)
2) Don't try to be "friends" once it's over. That just drags out the inevitable; it gives him hope that you might change your mind.
3) Don't have sex with him the night you break up with him.
4) Don't have sex with him when he crawls into your apartment begging for you to take him back.
5) Insist on NO contact. Cold turkey is the only way to get the job done."

From http://forum.quoteland.com/1/OpenTopic?

"I was in 8th grade, having the time of my life. I worked on the school newspaper. At the school fair, my friend won a bottle of coke, which we drank. We played games, flirted with guys, ran around. I won two key chains, one with a basketball and one of the earth. My two friends spent the night at my house, my dad asked my mom if she thought we were high; we were high; high on life and on being 13. That Saturday was the Fair dance; open to 6-8th graders. We did the bunny hop. I flirted with a 7th grader who thought that meant I liked him (I liked to flirted, I tended to flirt with any boy who gave me a chance). On Monday, a note was passed to me (through a few students). He asked me out; I circled 'yes'. I didn't like him. He freaked me out by saying how much he liked me and all this stuff, even gave me a necklace from a gumball machine (I didn’t even know who he was until the dance, even then, not sure I knew his name). I had to figure out how to break up with a guy without hurting him. Not sure how I did. I had my first dance with a boy at one of the graduation parties. He was a 7th grader, but cute and nice and umm...well sized for his age. I learned something new that night."

From http://theovereducatednympho.com

"He asked what sort of things I have written. I told him about a couple blog posts I’ve written: how to break up with a guy in thirty seconds or less, the difference between an asshole, a jackass, and a douchebag (did I really just say “douchebag” in front of my father?! oh fuck.), and how the pretty/sweet/funny triad of girls at a bar works. It looked like he enjoyed my choices in topic. And then he mentioned a few of his own that he thought would be good (and I am currently drafting out). By the end of dinner he seemed to be really into it. I think I may be receiving regular emails from Dad with topic ideas (most of which will be based on the woes of married life)."

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From http://answers.yahoo.com/question/

"Q. How to break up with a guy?

hey ok my friend is 17 the same age as me and has been dating this guy for about 3 weeks and she wants to break up with him but she doesnt want to make him sad or hate her because they have had sex once already and she doesnt want to hurt him and he is already telling her that he loves her like with his whole heart and i dont know what she should do i told her it was up to her but she really needs help on this so if you have any suggestions on what she should do that would be great thanks

A. Just don't use the "let's be friends line". It never works. Feelings are going to be hurt regardless.

A. She should think about how she would want to be broken up with and that's what she should do. Nobody ever wants to hurt or be hurt when breaking up but the only way for that to happen is either not to break up or be the one breaking up, it always hurts someone. She will probably just have to be straight up about it.

A. tell her to talk things out with her bf, but also tell her to be nice when breaking up with him. maybe they could still be friends after they break up.... sounds like this is the first guy she is breaking up with."

From http://home.earthlink.net/~loveguru/breakup.htm


The DELIBERATE break-up is a serious part of the arsenal of “woman technology”. When a girl wants commitment from a man and he doesn’t give it, she has to have strength to draw a line in the sand. And not follow Shannon Tweed in to 2 decades of marriage and two kids, without a license.

She has to have vision, to see the future where they are man and wife and have beautiful children.

She has to have faith that her attraction, beauty, charm is in place and that sweetheart is totally wacky in love with her. When she has strength vision and faith it’s time. In a kindly, gentle manner, break it off!

When a man is abruptly parted from a woman he was enjoying, whom he likes,he freaks out. FEAR of monogamy suddenly looks very small in comparison to this loss. He imagines her with another man and freaks out doubly.ALONENESS focuses him, assists him in feeling his feelings which MEN do not do easily.A period of thinking about it and longing for her and missing her is req’d.

Dr. Pat Allen ( “GETTING TO I DO” ) says that six weeks is the req’d time. A woman would not need (or understand) this six week period because a woman always knows her heart from the git go. She doesn’t understand that men are different. Men don’t compute the unconscious, or know their true feelings until he’s snapped into focus by a loss, then some time to mull over this loss. What she knows in an instant takes him six weeks to process."

From http://www.breakinguptips.com/index.php/18

""Breaking-Up Rules"

how to break up with a guy who fancies you so much

when breaking with a guy whose always been there for you and almost perfect but you just dont fancy him (you knowing its only one sided relationship).

Then best to text him or call him (if your definitely not sure if his going to throw a fit) saying 'i think you deserve a better girl who is in your perfect girl category'.And maybe if he been saying to you 'you havent call me nor texted me at all and its always me whose doing everything and you havent giving me enought attention and affection'.

Then u could say the next quote 'after thinking through what you've said days ago'.

This way its easier for the guy knowing you are doing this in good cause for his well being.

If he text or call trying to get you back then dont give any suggestions or hints you want to go back in the relationship remember you broke up with him for a cause.

Easiest thing to say is 'let just be friends' quote"

From http://www.tahoe-world.com/index2.php?< br>option=com_content&do_pdf=1&id=8010

"How to break up with a guy.

Man, some of you have really gotten the shaft, one guy even said that after the big break, he got stuck with, like, half a dozen pets that he is now desperately trying to give away.

There is a special place in hell for people who do this the wrong way. So before you rip him a new one in the middle of Sunnyside for not listening to you, and failing to understand your needs, blah, blah, blah, heed a word or two of advice.

Last week we looked at the proper way to let a girl go, but trust me that breaking up with a man is a totally different game.

Are you writing this down? Speak s-l-o-w-l-y: When you send your guy packing, be clear that, yes, you are really, really sure that things are definitely over. He's a big dumb animal and if you screw this part up you'll be getting 3 a.m. drunk dials in which said sap is slurring something incoherent about how good he treated you; why won't you take him back; you never even cared. Spare me."


"Moving On: How to break up with a guy

It’s hard to tell whom breaking up is more difficult for: the dumper or the dumpee? While being rejected can hurt and feel awful, actually rejecting another person can be just as difficult and painful. Many women, especially, feel the need to “be nice” and deal with confrontation by trying to make everyone happy. This approach is not necessarily the best; it can actually backfire when a guy reads your signals wrong and doesn’t get the message. The best approach is speaking directly and honestly (and tactfully) to convey your need to move on.

Whether you’ve been dating a guy for two days or two years, breaking up is never easy. First of all, you should never feel guilty for ending a relationship. One of the hardest things to admit is that a relationship just isn’t working – without blaming one of the people involved. It’s ok to use yourself as the reason for the breakup (“I’m not satisfied”) if you think it will appease your boyfriend’s mind. But know in your heart that you don’t have to blame yourself for a relationship that doesn’t cut it for you anymore.

Pick a place to talk that feels comfortable for both of you; perhaps a semi-public area such as a corner table in a coffee shop or a park bench. That way you can talk privately, but be able to leave when your conversation ends. Talking it over in your apartment might lead to argument or pleading – not what you want. Approach the situation in a gentle but firm manner, and don’t give up your position.

Give your boyfriend respect and recognition by looking him in the eye and speaking honestly. You don’t have to list a million reasons for going your separate ways; if you feel the need to give a reason, make it brief and simple. No one wants to sit and listen to all the failures of a relationship. And if he has a response, let him speak, as long as he doesn’t try to persuade you otherwise."

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