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Looking for some advice on break up survival? Below we have the best from around the web, from funny and cute to serious break up survival advice! Don't forget to add your own comments on break up survival at the end of this article! 

From http://groups.msn.com/BreakUpSurvival/survivalkit.msnw

"The Break Up Survival Kit

1. Accept that your appetite and sleep patterns will no where near resemble normal for some weeks yet try to EAT and SLEEP as much as you can.

2. Once you have actually broken up don’t ring, write or orchestrate accidental and unnecessary meetings.

3. Don’t don’t don’t listen to pop music, (or country music as Kansasman pointed out).

4. Avoid the use of alcohol/sleeping tablets/street drugs to try and dull the pain.

5. Grasp reality.

6. Make a list of all the things that made you wanted to throttle the ex alive, or worse.

7. Get absorbed in a new book or project, like I did in building this community.

8. Pack up/burn/sell/donate to charity the gifts that your ex bought you and letters/cards that they sent you, basically remove anything that reminds you of them heavily, either temporarily or for good.

9. Read children's books, you will find their simple stories and colourful pictures soothing.

10. Get crafty!

11. Move your furniture around, buy fresh new bedding and paint a wall a new colour, this helps to re-claim your space as YOUR space.

12. Round up all the ex's belongings in your home and put them somewhere in a bag/box.

13. Listen to talk based, current affairs radio stations.

14. Do The Cup Experiment

15. Keep a diary.

16. Pamper your body.

17. Look through the Archives here at the community to read lots of useful advice and encouragement.

18. If you do need to have contact in order to sort out matters of importance, such as access to any children, keep the dialogue polite and brief.

19. Allow yourself time to cry, it’s necessary, even you guys!

20. Talk to your friends, we’ve ALL been hurt and had relationships blow up in our faces.

21. Try not to worry about the severity of your despair, it will pass."

From http://www.stopgettingdumped.com/breakup.html

"The DUMPED!

Break-up Survival Guide

Maybe you knew it was coming. Maybe you didn’t. You’ve been dumped.

So, other than moping around in your pajamas, spending quality time with Ben & Jerry, what can you do? Well, clear away that mountain of soggy tissues, and I’ll tell you how to get through the worst of it, the first 30 days.

Three things: Take care of yourself. Give yourself time to mourn. Move forward."

From http://www.health24.com/
Woman/Relationships/711-724-726,32139.asp

"10 tips on break-up survival

Few things are as devastating as a messy break-up. Your self-image has been ground into the dust, you feel ugly and unwanted and you're sure people are talking about you behind your back. Or even worse, they feel sorry for you.

And there's this ache somewhere between your stomach and your ribs that just won't go away. Especially after you saw your ex with the new partner outside the bank this morning. But all is not lost, even though it feels like it right now.

Take heart.

Life is not over.

Other people will find you attractive again.

The awful feeling of sadness will not last forever.

You could be better off without this person.

Your finances will recover.

You can learn from this mistake.

You'll have more time now to spend with friends.

You don't have to account for your movements.

A cheat is going to do it again.

The best revenge is looking good and being happy."


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From http://telepicturesblog.warnerbros.com/tyrashow
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Create Your Own Break-Up Survival Kit

In the “Why Did You Dump Me?” episode, Tyra hosted a bedroom break-up party and unveiled the essential break-up survival kit guaranteed to erase all traces of an ex! All of the information on each of the featured products is included below:

1. “Complimentary” Cereal Bowl: raise your self-esteem for breakfast with the "You're a Goddess" bowl that reads, "You're beautiful! You're amazing! You're Brilliant! Everyone loves you! You're a Goddess!" Or for the men, choose to build confidence with the "Chicks Dig You!" bowl that reads, "You're the Man! You're Handsome! You're Strong! You're Charming!" Each piece is individually hand-painted. Lead free, dishwasher and microwave safe. Available for $16 at www.wrapables.com

2. Love Voodoo Kit: this playful kit takes a look at the good and bad sides of love, with a unique interactive aspect in the form of a voodoo doll -- tons of fun as a party game or a source of solitary, pin-sticking vengeance. For those looking to match-make, match-break or put a hex on their ex, Voodoo Lou provides just the right tongue-in-cheek spell, along with romantic insight that can't help but bring comic relief. Available for $10 at www.runningpress.com

3. Mr. Right When You Need Him: “Mr. Right When You Need Him” is the perfect low-maintenance male companion, just the right size for desktop or tote bag. He's always ready to utter compliments and say sweet things at the push of a button. Yes, he talks -- and he says just what many women are yearning to hear: "You look thin! Did you lose weight? It's not your fault, it's mine. Can I take you shoe shopping?" He arrives complete with a user's manual loaded with tips on how, where and when to utilize Mr. Right's unique proclivities to best advantage. Available for $15 at www.runningpress.com

4. Bag Ladies’ “Forget Him” Tea: each tin costs $12.50 and contains 24 bags of quality English Breakfast tea tagged with insightful and humorous quotes. “Be Careful. He May Have Caller ID.” And, “No We Can’t Drive By His House Again.” Available at www.bagladiestea.com

5. Sleep Buddy’s Boyfriend Arm Pillow: the Boyfriend Arm Pillow advantages compared to a regular boyfriend include: it can't hold a remote, won't be out drinking at a club with his co-workers until all hours, not a two-timer, it’s much more comfortable than a boyfriend's arm, one size fits all and optional vibrating alarm clock to put in the sleeve to wake you in the morning. You can have one for $99 at www.della.us


Break-Up Survival Guide
by Rinatta Paries

Losing a loved one is never easy. Even when the loss is your choice, it isn't easy. Whether a person experiences a break up of a relationship, a death of a loved one, or another powerful loss, there are predictable stages one goes through, predictable feelings one feels.

Swiss-born psychiatrist Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross described the five classic stages of the coping with grief and loss. According to Kubler-Ross, a person experiencing loss will go through all of the stages, in any order.

The five stages are:

  • denial
  • resentment
  • bargaining
  • depression
  • acceptance

Loss and subsequent grieving is a powerful, transformative time. It is a time to take care of yourself, to let go of the past and to create a future. Unfortunately, many people get stuck in one of the stages of grief, unable to complete their process and move on.

If you are experiencing loss and grief right now, if you have recently ended or are in the process of ending a relationship, I would like to support you in moving through it in an empowering way. I've created the following list of suggestions for you to keep handy to help you cope:

Remember that you...

  • will feel pain
  • have survived this type of pain before and will this time as well
  • will feel lonely
  • are ok and lovable

Accept that...

  • the relationship is over
  • your ex partner has both good and bad qualities; do not idealize or discount him/her

Focus on...

  • yourself
  • personal growth
  • self care

Get complete with...

  • yourself
  • your ex

Own...

  • the magnificence of who you are
  • your part in the relationship break-up

Give yourself time to...

  • grieve
  • be alone
  • recover

Make sure that you...

  • get touch, from friends or a body therapist
  • have someone to come home to sometimes, like a relative or a friend

Reinvent...

  • your community
  • yourself
  • your future
  • your dreams

If you're experiencing the end of a short-term relationship, consider the following:

Realize that...

  • the pain you feel is not about your ex partner, but about your past
  • if you start healing your past, the pain will subside
  • holding on to anger at an ex partner will keep you attached and in pain

Get complete with...

  • your ex partner
  • all of your ex partners
  • your parents

Give yourself...

  • room to grieve
  • room to grow

Build for yourself...

  • a community
  • self-esteem
  • a life that you love

Whether you are ending a long-term or a short-term relationship...

  • don't look for a new relationship until you are done grieving
  • trust that when ready you will attract the right partner
  • welcome the pain as an opportunity to evolve

It's through self-evolution that you will be able to create the relationship of your dreams.

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Breaking Up Is Hard To Do - Break-Up Survival Tips
By Michael Russel

Some people can get over break-ups easier than others but most people will go through one or all of these stages:

Anger, sadness or possibly denial.

Everyone deals with his or her emotions differently. Having some remedies handy will help you to get through it the best way you possibly can.

There are some that might suggest throwing caution to the wind by eating entire pints of ice cream, drinking tequila shots, shop till you drop therapy.

But others offer more practical advice like getting out with friends or practicing yoga. See which break-up antidotes will work for you.

1. Get a makeover. Try something different than what you have ever looked like before.

2. Use his picture as a dartboard. Get that anger out!

3. Going out to eat with friends

4. See a psychic just for the fun of it

5. Get a totally hot new outfit

6. Learn something NEW - Pole dancing, crocheting, skydiving, whatever

7. Go to the gym, workout, burn off anger and get really buff doing it.

8. Take a mini vacation if you can. Something as simple as getting away for a weekend can refresh you while helping you to see that this is for the best.

9. If you cannot get away for a vacation then use self tanner to look like you did. You will look totally hot and every one will think you went on a vacation to the Bahamas or somewhere else great.

10. Curl up with a blanket and let yourself cry but for no longer than 60 minutes. Then get up, dry your tears and get on with getting over him.

11. Get a cool new hairstyle. Try a totally different color with the corresponding make up changes. If your hair is long then consider a short haircut for something completely different. You will have heads turning!

12. Go ahead and do something that he always HATED to do. If he hated to do the things you used to love and you stopped doing them to make him happy then start enjoying them again. Remember; do not give up the things you love for anyone. You lose a part of yourself when you do that. No man is worth giving up what makes you happy.

13. Get dressed to the nines, go out and then Flirt Like Crazy just because you can!

14. Indulge in eating a pint of ice cream

15. Clean Clean Clean! It gets your mind off him, burns energy and you have a super clean home for your efforts.

16. CHOCOLATE! - Need I say more?

17. Tell him you lied when you told him that he was the best you have ever had?

18. Long walks on the beach

19. Learn Yoga

20. Try to remember that some people are in our life for a reason - to teach us something. Maybe he has taught you all that he was supposed to and now you can find the person you are meant to be with.

In conclusion, although breaking up is hard to do you will get through this and usually your life will end up better for it. That which does not kill us will make us stronger. This too shall pass.

Yes, these are all clichés but they have been around for years and that is because they are true and they work.

Like the old song says "I will Survive!" Yes, you really will.

Michael Russell - Your Independent guide to Womens' Issues

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